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Edit09-11-2011: since you brought so much attention to this journal let me add something from myself:
If you have ever been bullied, please don't keep the hurt, the rage, the bad feeling inside of you. TALK TO SOMEBODY! Tell them what happened. Share how you feel, it will help you find a way, it will help you realize you're not alone. No matter how ashamed you are, no matter what you think that people may say about it.
I know from expirience that victims always feel like they are the guilty ones and they shut up about it. But just share it with somebody, even if it's a friend over the internet, even if its on your facebook wall. The more you keep it inside, the more it grows, so set it free. And keep going with life, no matter how hard it is. One step at a time.

"A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take out a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up, not to rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they're sorry. Now, even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they're sorry, but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home. "
Copy and paste this if you are against bullying.


if you want to share your life stories, we're here - we read.
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shadowmist674 Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2015  Student Digital Artist
I remembered a when I was in first grade a boy said I hope that I trip and myhead cracks open and I die :(

he send to punch me too
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mejony Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2015  Professional General Artist
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ASkyOfAutumnTears Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2011
As a past victim of bullying several years ago, I can definitely say that the scars aren't forever for people who chose to leave the memories by the wayside. You can let your past pull you down, or you can live on for the present and future. It's each individual's choice really.... Yes, there are more hurtful, and longer lasting experiences, but rarely do they persist beyond high school. From that point on, one is free from their grasp physically.... I actually had a bit of a party from it. Life never felt better for me even though nothing had really changed.
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DJpaw Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
im from cadana, and ive been bullied, but there a young 15 year old girl who just killed herself last week because she was being bullied for years, her mom was the one who found her, and that girl had written a letter of 3 page saying sorry to everyone .

RIP Marjorie Raymond
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mejony Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2011  Professional General Artist
:(
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Shadow0B Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I'd speak up but noone listens to me at all
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2011  Professional General Artist
dont be too sure
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Shadow0B Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
noone listens to anything I say. I'm not kidding, I wrote a journal about a current situation in my life about 2 months ago and noone read it until I posted a link to it on their profile
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2011  Professional General Artist
well on dA things work like this - if you have watchers they will read, if you don't - noone will. And as i see through your page you dont have much, so don't make such sayings that noone cares :)
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Shadow0B Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
it's not just here that it's like that
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sabbathsilverclaw Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm going to share this where a lot more people will read it, my facebook account. It is so very true. But, I must add, even when we talk about being bullied or what happened long ago in our past, it don't always seem to help at first. We as listeners need to choose our words very carefully.

I wish I had this many people to listen when I was dealing with bullies in school. Things probably would be a lot different now.
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FrontiersJunkie Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
I used to get bullied by teachers. I used to get beat up from pre-school to 4th grade. In 5th, I started kicking asses. -.-
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Professional General Artist
dawz
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IntelligentWolf Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student Digital Artist
Hey, I run an Anti-Bullying group with my friends here on dA, you can join as a contributor or member if you want :D It's slow moving, but having more people to promote helps to get the word out, and help others :D
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chaopets Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student General Artist
I have been bullied throughout my whole entire life. But it is alright. I mean, I am alive right? I just sometimes wish bad things happened to the people who have bullied me or they had a big life lesson. Idk. is that wrong? I feel bad for thinking like that, like just because they bullied me it shouldn't mean they deserve it. But I was bullied so much, it made me have tears in my eyes and I stood alone most of the time.

Elementary people would threaten me to pee on my jacket, or take my things. They would call me names. Then in middle school it was worst. Lockers were smeared with lotion, I was knocked down to the floor, I was called worst names, I was shoved into lockers. I was alone - I never told my family these things and the only escape I had was the internet which my grades started slipping because I was on it so much.

But I mean, I kept a smile on my face and ignored their actions, even through in the end I had trouble trusting people and I never learned how to social correctly. Then in high school - I was alone again but it didn't get so bad. I mean, I stood my ground a few times by ignoring their actions. But I was also bullied on the internet (it is called trolling now, but I there is a difference between trolling and trying to hurt someone on purpose). The worst part was some things that my peers said were not even true. I am a creep, I am such a stupid bitch. But all they knew was my name. And the worst part is that my friend didn't even side with me. That hurt me.

And now since I am out of high school, they think they have won. But there was no game to play. Was there? How did I win something when they thought they won? I am not sure how that works. Now on facebook I am still that creep as they post pictures of them and me with them. They were my friends or I thought they were my friends. It hurts. I wish I can get back at them ...and I know I will never do because I am not like that. I know what it feels like to be bullied and I hate it.

I think bullying people is stupid, I wish people would just stop. But I don't see how anyone can stop unless everyone has been on the other side. I am not sure. I just Idk. :/ It hurts my heart when I hear people who have bullied. I am the type of person who will stick up for other people. I stuck up to plenty of people in middle school. But they never did the same for me.

Life moves on I guess. x3 I am happy and it made me for who I am. Even though I wished I enjoyed school like everyone else did instead of hiding and being scared of what is going to happen next.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Professional General Artist
everything comes back in this life... karma...so... it will return to them dont worry
:hug:
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Jezzy-Fezzy Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
I didn't tell my mum I was verbally bulled at school....Until a couple of years ago as an adult.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Professional General Artist
how did she react?
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Netko09 Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Heh, I remember last year when someone who normally picks on me went and started on me during Maths class by repeatedly slapping the back of my head and kicking my chair....

He stood up and so did I, he said "Come on, I dare ya!" I replied "Go ahead, try it." He headbutted me once then I told him to do it again, when he did it again I punched him 5 times in the face, ironicly nearly putting him on his hole. My friend acctully had to brake it up because I had enough of the bullshit i've took for 4 years and I wanted to end it for once. We were both sent to the principals office and he was suspended for a week, I got off though due to me being "provoked". (And more or less gotten the first attack from him, so basicly he started it and the whole class was watching. So I would at least have a reason not to get into trouble, but still I knew that I possably would get into it anyway.)

Most people in my class were like WTF when they seen this happen, I was the most quiet and passive in my class, and after that they shown me a small bit of respect.

Normally Im not one to get into violence and mostly avoid it, but if it needs be, I fight back as best as I can if im brought into it. :|
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chaopets Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student General Artist
I'm like that too. There was this one time in freshman year, there was this girl who kept kicking my chair and talking during some movie. I am a pretty passive and quiet person but there is so much I can take. One day, she wouldn't shut up so I annoyed her by kicking the back of her chair and she turned around and was like, "Will you stop that bitch!?!" and I stood up from my chair and yelled, "I will if you shut up!!" everyone was staring at me and the next day the girls were moved into a different place.
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Netko09 Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
:) Nice. She got a taste of bad Karma then. =P

At least she couldn't cause much trouble to you after that then. :)
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chaopets Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student General Artist
yep. same to you, I hope. :)
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Netko09 Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes. :) It has stoped for me.
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stasher-dragon Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
So many irresponsible parents that think their kids can't do wrong. They are more often than not the root of the problem. "Kids will be kids," is their excuse.

But they are the parent and they are the ones that need to teach them right from wrong. They shouldn't fall back on a lame excuse or denial.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
...mhm
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TheWolvesRevenge Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
You want to fix bullies?Don't show weakness,don't talk to others.Next time they bully you give them their own medicine.If they call you a fag then call them a idiot moron.If they say your stupid just tell them their gay and have aids.If they try to fight you then give them a beating they will never forget without killing them.

You wanna deal with bullies and get them off your back.Then be as mean to them as they are to you.Show them that they will receive what they give out.I did that and at the end of high school everyone respected me,weather they wanted to or not.Cause they realized that I'm going to fight back and that I am determined enough to win.

That's how you get them to shut-up and leave you alone.Talking to others help's but there is nothing as good as letting out some pent up anger.I was angry at bullies a lot.And i let it out and showed them what they made me.A pissed off hard-ass who doesn't play by anyone's rules but my own.
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DustyLightbulb Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
Then you're not any better than the bully, are you?
Because if you do to the bully what they did to you, then that makes other people feel that they can treat you the same way that they treated that person, whether it be good or bad. I can see that you got respect, but remember that not all people can go through something by themselves. They need help. Not everyone is as brave as you. Not everyone is as respected as you, and they're afraid to let out their emotions, unless it's to a friend.

You might not have needed someone, but that doesn't mean everyone else does.

Not everyone fights back like you do.
And I'm not trying to get you angry, I'm just pointing out that not everyone can "Fight fire with fire", and that's usually not the best path.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
Its true what you wrote, you got to make people respect you, to see that you are strong.

but not everyone can fight, not everyone can speak to scare people away,
and those got stepped on over and over again.
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houtaru Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
I was bullied throughout elementary, but it was mostly verbal. they called me names, told me i was a retard, and alienated me. i had no friends. Middle school and high school was better because i had friends to stick up for me. I remember the times it was physical abuse- the day a girl spit on me, the time a boy repeatedly poked me with a safety pin on the bus, the girl who gave me a black eye, and a few other incidents. I am glad that school systems are finally recognizing this as a problem, because back then they didn't care.
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Clampigirl Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
God, that sounds horrible! Poor you! :hug: It sounds so... ugh! Here, another :hug:.
Last year, the last year in junior high school, the boys in my class started to laugh out suddenly for some seconds directly after I said something or answered a question. I have no idea why. They also threw snowballs at me when I was alone and was getting something from my locker.
Two years ago, they started to throw water balloons at we girls, but mostly at me.
No teacher seemed to notice. Even that I told the prime principal, he didn't do anything.
I didn't care about them, I tried to stay strong. Now that I'm in high school, its over, but the boys are still there, and I hate to see them or cross our ways in corridors.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
:hug:
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projectsonic Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011   Writer
I was one of those kids who was the butt of every joke, made fun of all the time. And I mean all. I pretty much got every bullying tactic on the book when I was in high school. Everything from how I blew my nose and didn't talk to the blunt of the anti-gay insults (even though I'm straight, strangely enough. No offense to anyone... but that's just my orientation).

But you know what? I'm more than alive after that. I came out of it better than I was. I didn't attempt suicide for that reason alone, I didn't cry, for the most part I stood my ground and took it like a rock (not to say I didn't do something about it occasionally, just that I didn't see any point). I found and solved my own problems, and grew a much bigger heart because of it (as backwards as it sounds). If anything comes my way, I'll always remember that I've been through worse and that when I come home it's over. And if it wasn't me, it was going to be someone else.

I got the worst part of my class at the time, and I may have felt a little like that piece of paper. But in the center I was still me.

Honestly, all this publicity on schoolyard fights... I've honestly not seen a single thing that's worse than my case was. I don't support the anti-bullying campaign. At all. This is society, people far before me and far after me will be made fun of at one point of their lives. Some will even be targeted. If it's not at school, they will find some other place. Tell a kid no, and they'll find a way if they find the need to urgent enough. That's life, that's hormones, that's conflict. And in many cases, it's not bullying to them: it's marking territory. Some young men find it's best to assert dominance for whichever reason.

And let me tell you, no offense to this journal or it's commentators at all, but I've seen a lot of bull about bullying on my days of dA. Tell someone they're an art thief? Get mad because of some obvious prank in a signature? Bullying, even though it's not IRL.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
its everywhere indeed and always will exist
in life in general there are always problems of any kind.

glad you've found the way to make it through!
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projectsonic Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011   Writer
Indeed. How things work may sound chaotic, but hey. If it wasn't for that nothing would be very much fun, now would it? XD

Granted, I have helped quite a lot of people with similar problems, but you can't just eliminate it.
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Ggeenss Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student Interface Designer
You know whats funny. Every single person is against bullying but then 5 min later after you read this it's like poof gone. And you go further with your life. o_o
I've been bullied a lot but it made me strong and showed me to enjoy life more =)
The person who was the ''leader'' said sorry to me after 6 years and guess what. I only said thank you but I was thinking. Thank you for these years. I've changed how I live and now I'm enjoying life and your failing life.

It's just for everyone different & it doesn't matter how many people are really doing something to stop it. It will always continue just like murderers, diseases, animal cruelty. How painful this is to write down. This is reality. Everyone is wishing for a better world but no one is doing something (You can't change something alone anymore you need a whole crowd with you and that's these days impossible) People are protesting for Nature but why should we care? Only thing that's important is the newest plasma tv I've gotta have.


But then again I :heart: Life no matter what ;d

(lol sorry for the negativity.)
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
...well because we think only about ourselves will lead us to the end of the civilization, and we're going to there pretty fast. We're killing each other, killing all of the surroundings, all of the earth. For money.
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Ggeenss Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Student Interface Designer
Money = Power
Power = Everything
Love = Doesn't exists.

That's whats happening these days...
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GmatsCOO Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
I did have ppl who tried to bully me, mostly because I was overly calm and peaceful despite my quite dreadful looks.

Didnt last long enough tho. At some point I got into small verbal conflict with one of them wich resulted in him inviting 4-5 other usual suspects that tried to pick on me to go and teach me a "lesson".

That day I tried to ignore them but eventually I got cornered and had to face them. "You think you're tough? Try hit me if you dare" were their "leader" words as he was "judging" me.

As usually I had my keychain (quite a big one actually with large chain rings) around my arms that day. After I punched out that leader of theirs he had very clear marks of that chain across his face. Needless to say the moment I did that 3 guys behind me jumped on my back trying to restain me. Unfortunatelly to them me bending down to the ground was all it took to throw them over my body after wich I had a short meeting with each one of them.

That was enough to send them all running away in all 4 directions. Result? Next day they were at my door apologising. And thats where it all ended, not a single word from them eversince. They were all in 8th grade just like me.

My lesson is very simple: one "loud" confrontation when they are clearly in the wrong is better than enduring this torture silently.

I know violence is bad but not being able to stand for yourself is even worse. And trust me on one thing: getting into big fight once and maybe even getting beat up in the process is wayyyy better than enduring their shit week after week after week. Tho if you are getting into fight make sure to deliver them some pain so they remember that even they can get hurt.

PS: If you have long nails you have a fast and easy way to leave your mark on the bully's face. Going for any shrapnel they might have pierced into their bodies is also a good target.
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TheWolvesRevenge Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
Amen to that man.I remember in middle school I was constantly shoved around in 6th and no one did anything about it.So in 7th I changed and became a hardass.Everyone who tried to punch me got a swift kick in crotch or a hard beeting.Most of which found out the hard way that as they became weaker in a long fight I became stronger.But everyone wanted a peice of me and it wasent until freashmen year that people started to respect me.I never got a apology but once and it was a false when I only grunted and he tried to pin me down.As a result when I moved accross the country I kept to myself.Then 1 guy tried to fight me and I nearly put his ass into the hospital.So your right on that point man.Better to make a stand and fight back then to hide and whimper.
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GmatsCOO Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
Yeah, key thing is that bullies are usually VERY insecure. So they are just looking for someone weak to back their ego, however this does not bode well with them if you actually show them that you have more backbone than they do and that is a big hit on them.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
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Jin-Kurazama Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
Yeah, no, sorry. It sounds pretty nice and dandy that talking about it to someone(who will do nothing in the end) like it will fix it, but it won't. It's like telling someone you crashed your car will magically fix the crash.

You've got bullying problems? You have to return fire. It's the way life works. "Ignoring" the bully will not make him go away to bother someone else. Bullies love when people pretend to "not care" because they show that they're too scared of what the bully might do to them if they do something about it. Actions speak louder than words, and nothing says "Leave me alone" better than a punch to the nose.

Or piledriving them into a broken leg: [link]
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
Well exactly bullies take advantage of the fact that they know you won't tell anyone, so you must speak it out.

And once again - revenge does not solve problems.
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Jin-Kurazama Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
Hey, I was bullied in high-school too until I fought back, then nobody messed with me again. It's not about becoming something people should fear, that's a bully. It's simply earning yourself some respect. People are not gonna mess with someone who doesn't mess with anybody but still can give you a black eye.

Defending yourself is not revenge, you can't just go through life taking blows without returning any because you'll either end up killing yourself or taking it all out on innocents. Talking to parents or teachers doesn't help because that doesn't fix the problem(often, it just makes it worse), which is the bully's feeling of superiority on you. Sure, you can talk to his parents, but they probably don't give two shits about their son's behaviour. Just one punch is 90% "welcome to reality, you are not the boss here" to any bully.
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Kage-en Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
I was in the situation of the victim for about 4 years it hurt and that teacher was right the scares never go away but i did not handle it by talking to others for i also didn't really have friends and parents were over protective so i just fought back and i showed the bullies that they cant break me and i will never back down
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
Its good that you handled the situation, bravo
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WolfieGrrrl Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
I was bullied repeatedly for 4 years by a high school colleague of mine who claimed to be my "best friend" and "twin sister"... but I've talked it out with people until I felt much better about it. XD Heheh...

The one thing I really wanted to scream at her was that family is something that means everything to me, so what makes her think she can just claim to be a part of it and then treat me like less than dirt?

This story really is cute, though. =) If more people would reinforce in schools with younger students that bullying is damaging and wrong, then perhaps those children wouldn't grow up to bully others. *nods*
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Reecey-Boy Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
As much as I agree with the sentiment here, this story sounds apocryphal to me.

The only useful thing I can add to this conversation is the assertion that if you have problems, whether it's because you're being bullied or your home life leads you to bullying, it's your responsibility to seek help. No one can do it for you.
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mejony Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Professional General Artist
of course YOU must seek it. if you never say you have problem, noone will guess. And in most cases noone will resolve it for you
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